Skin Picking/Dermatillomania Resources

As with anything that involves research, life choices, health issues, and healing I wanted to caution, let the buyer beware. I have only included links here that I researched and found to be reputable, mostly from non-profit organizations, or other survivors. Even if something is free of cost, it can still have consequences in your life, both negative and positive, exacting a cost, so let the buyer beware when making any choices, educate yourself. You deserve to get the right help that assists you in healing.

I caution against online therapy, buying books, and giving your money to someone who says they have a treatment for you online. Look for the most reputable resources, you deserve the best and the best healing assistance.

I would recommend educating yourself and acquiring a therapist and/or doctor who are reputable and knowledgeable and sharing with them the specifics of what you are dealing with.

What is Skin Picking Disorder?

The TLC Foundation for BFRBs

Understanding Skin Picking Disorder

Understanding Body-Focused Repetitive Behaviors

What is Dermatillomania?

Life With Dermatillomania  (Psychology Today)

Expert Consensus Treatment Guidelines

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy


Treatment Options

Grounding/Coping Skills

Self-Soothe/Comfort Skills

Alternative Therapies

Self Help Strategies/Articles

Helpful Hints

Tips and Tricks

Helpful Tips and Tricks

List of Strategies

How to Stop Picking

Things to do Instead

For Family and Loved Ones

Treating the Whole Person: A Personal Users Guide Part 1

Treating the Whole Person: A Personal Users Guide Part 2

12 Dermatillomania Myths Dispelled

6 Myths About Dermatillomania

Canadian BFRB Support Network

What is Dermatillomania?

Skin Picking Disorder Fact Sheet

Dermatillomania Resources

Resources: Suicide Hotlines

United States Suicide Hotlines

Argentina Suicide Hotlines

Armenia Suicide Hotlines

Australia Suicide Hotlines

Austria Suicide Hotlines

Barbados Suicide Hotlines

Belgium Suicide Hotlines

Botswana Suicide Hotlines

Brazil Suicide Hotlines

Canada Suicide Hotlines

China Suicide Hotlines

Croatia Suicide Hotlines

Cyprus Suicide Hotlines

Denmark Suicide Hotlines

Egypt Suicide Hotlines

Estonia Suicide Hotlines

Fiji Suicide Hotlines

Finland Suicide Hotlines

France Suicide Hotlines

Germany Suicide Hotlines

Ghana Suicide Hotlines

Gibraltar Suicide Hotlines

Hong Kong Suicide Hotlines

Hungary Suicide Hotlines

India Suicide Hotlines

Ireland Suicide Hotlines

Israel Suicide Hotlines

Italy Suicide Hotlines

Japan Suicide Hotlines

Liberia Suicide Hotlines

Lithuania Suicide Hotlines

Malaysia Suicide Hotlines

Malta Suicide Hotlines

Mauritius Suicide Hotlines

Namibia Suicide Hotlines

Netherlands Suicide Hotlines

New Zealand Suicide Hotlines

Norway Suicide Hotlines

Paupua New Guinea Suicide Hotlines

Philippines Suicide Hotlines

Poland Suicide Hotlines

Portugal Suicide Hotlines

Russian Federation Suicide Hotlines

Somoa Suicide Hotlines

Serbia Suicide Hotlines

Singapore Suicide Hotlines

South Africa Suicide Hotlines

South Korea Suicide Hotlines

Spain Suicide Hotlines

Sri Lanka Suicide Hotlines

St. Vincent Suicide Hotlines

Sudan Suicide Hotlines

Sweden Suicide Hotlines

Switzerland Suicide Hotlines

Taiwan Suicide Hotlines

Thailand Suicide Hotlines

Tobago Suicide Hotlines

Tonga Suicide Hotlines

Trinidad and Tobago Suicide Hotlines

Turkey Suicide Hotlines

Ukraine Suicide Hotlines

United Kingdom Suicide Hotlines

Zimbabwe Suicide Hotlines

List originally posted here.

Privilege: White Privilege, et. al.

White/Race Privilege:

White Privilege:Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack

“Check my privilege?” On privilege and what we can do about it

A Primer on Privilege: What it is and What it isn’t

Understanding White Privilege

Privilege 101

Privilege 101: The Basics

Privilege 101: Checking Your Privilege

This… Is White Privilege

“Passing” Privilege

Male Privilege:

Male Privilege Checklist

Permission to Geek Out– Granted

An Open Letter to Geeky Guys

Class Privilege:

Being Poor Is…

Education Privilege

USA Privilege:

American Privilege

Heterosexual/Sexuality Privilege:

Heterosexual Privilege Checklist

Straight Privilege

Vanilla Privilege Checklist

Monogamous Privilege Checklist

Gender Privilege

Gender Identity Privilege:

Cis Privilege Checklist

Body Size or Body Normative Privilege:

Body Size Privilege Checklist

Average Sized Privilege List

This is Thin Privilege

Frequently Heard [Comment Insults] Asshatery

What Being a Fat Woman is Really Like

My Embarrassing Picture Went Viral

You Cannot Help Those You Loathe

How Not to Talk to Fat People on the Internet

Thin Privilege is Real: How to Think About it Intersectionally

Able-Bodied Privilege:

Abled Privilege

Able-Bodied Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack

Neurotypical Privilege Checklist

Religious Privilege:

Christian Privilege Checklist

Age Privilege:

Adult Privilege Checklist

Life on the Outside Privilege

A Resource Page for Partners and Supporters of Survivors

In October of last year I posted a new resource page. It is for partners and supporters of survivors. I was very excited to start assembling this resource page, because there is not a lot of resources out there and some of it gives what I consider the wrong advice.

Recently I’ve come across a couple of other organizations focusing on Dissociative Identity Disorder, with articles for partners and supporters and added them. The issue of lack of appropriate advice and information for multiples, their partners, friends, family, other survivors, and other supporters has always been acute. I’m so happy that I was able to add to the resource page and hopefully it will help some of us feel more understood, acknowledged, accepted, and supported.  

Here is the link to my page:

For Partners and Supporters of Survivors

And here is my resource page:

Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

Good and healing thoughts to us all.

For Partners and Supporters of Survivors

Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

What You Should Know About Rape and Sexual Assault

The Impact of Sexual Abuse

Healing from Child Sexual Abuse Resources

Rape/Sexual Assault Resources

Male Rape/Sexual Assault Resources

How to Help a Friend

What Survivors Need from Loved Ones

Tips for Friends and Family of Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors

What the Partners of Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse Want to Know

How to Help Your Partner Cope with Male Sexual Abuse

For Loved Ones of Sexual Assault/Abuse Survivors

Child Abuse Triggers and Dissociation Pt. 3 (Helping Someone after they Dissociate)

Role of Carers and Supporters

How to Help Rape Survivors

For Parents and Partners of Rape

Watching Them Survive: A Website for the Friends and Family of Violent Sexual Crime

Specifically For Partners:

Primer for Partners of Sexual Abuse Survivors

Partners with PTSD

Partners of Survivors

Partners of Rape Survivors

For Parents and Partners of Rape

A Man’s Guide for Helping a Woman Who Has Been Raped

The Dos and Don’t for Partners of Survivors of Rape and Childhood Sexual Abuse

When Your (Lesbian) Partner is a Survivor of Sexual Abuse or Incest

Partner Sexual Abuse Questions and Answers

How to Help Your Partner Recover from Eating Problems

How to Help Those Who Self-Harm

Support for

What About Me? The Partner of Sexual Abuse Survivor

What Partners Need

A Partner’s Dilemma

Tips for Helping a Partner Heal Sexually

Self-Care for Supporters of Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors

On the Topic of Dissociative Identity Disorder:

Dissociative Identity Disorder Resources

Specifically for Partners of Survivors with DID:

Blog: Loving Someone with DID

Organization: Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors

My Experience as a Partner of a Dissociative Disorder

For Better or Worse: Life as the Partner of a Dissociative Survivor

The Road Less Travelled Part One: How to Support Your DID Partner (Part 1)

The Road Less Travelled Part One: How to Support Your DID Partner (Part 2)

Don’t do it!” – A Partner’s Perspective on Self-harm and Suicidality

When the One You Love is MPD/DID

Partners of Dissociative Survivors

The Significant Other’s Guide to Dissociative Identity Disorder

Help! My Friend Has DID. How Can I Help?

Human Trafficking


Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

CAST: Coaltion to Abolish Slavery & Trafficking

Understanding Slavery & Trafficking

Key Statistics

ECPAT USA: End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography, and Trafficking of Children for Sexual Exploitation


Amnesty International: Trafficking FAQ

Initiative Against Sexual Trafficking

Resources Page

Human Trafficking Fact Sheet

Labor Trafficking Fact Sheet

Ritual Abuse/Trafficking Articles

Ritual Abuse Links

Child Victims of Human Trafficking

The Commercial Exploitation of Children in the U.S., Canada, and Mexico

Their Protection is in Our Hands: The State of Global Child Trafficking for Sexual Purposes

Trafficking in Persons 2010 Report

Trafficking in Persons: U.S. Policy and Issues for Congress

Sex Trafficking Fact Sheet

International Trafficking in Women to the United States: A Contemporary Manifestation of Slavery & Organized Crime

Forced Labor & Human Trafficking: Estimating the Profits

Free the Slaves

Polaris Project

Coalition Against Trafficking in Women


Body and Sold

Blog: Human Trafficking & Sexual Exploitation

News Articles

The Reality of Human Trafficking

I know that nowadays most people grasp the concept that there is human trafficking of human beings, across borders and boundaries, exploiting workers and enslaving them. Trafficking can also happen in one country, as young teenage girls are being promised a good job in the city only to find armed guards and a debt they will never be able to pay by sexual slavery. I do not use the term forced prostitution, as that does not accurately describe what happens to these children and adults.

This happens worldwide and is understood to involve children and adults. This is the modern-day face of slavery. I created a page of resource links on the topic of human trafficking and it is posted here on my blog:

Human Trafficking Resources

This is the reality we face now.  I hear about it on the national news. I heard it a lot when I was living nearby Mexico last year. Though there is usually a lot of denial that it happens here in America, it does. Most news stories are about trafficking being transporting citizens of other countries into another country illegally.

There isn’t a lot of stories about the women who become captured and sold into sexual slavery, except in other countries. There are some, just not that many. There aren’t a lot of stories about teenagers who become enslaved to someone who is selling them as prostitutes due to physical and sexual assaults and threats. I saw one story. There are some other stories, just usually not about it happening in the United States. It does.

Although there are stories in the news of children being sexually abused by family members, I never hear about all the children that are  sold sexually to other adults by their parents or siblings. This is not rare.  This is also a type of human trafficking, but no one is talking about it in the media. Being a child member of a family where abuse is happening is the reality of a captive childhood. They are selling children’s bodies for profit. And no one is talking about it in the national media. I was abused like this.

There used to be frequent stories about child pornography and organized sexual abuse and the online efforts to catch them. It is very rare to hear about it now, a big case here or there that caught many with computers full of child pornography. It used to be a topic in the national news magazines.

Now the level of awareness has devolved into sexual offenders making a date with a teenager and instead being caught on the show To Catch a Predator. Yes they are predators and yes they are sexual offenders. They just aren’t child sexual abuse predators. Those seem to not be on news programs anymore. Why? They are still out there. Why is abuse made so invisible in our culture/country?

There aren’t any stories on the news or news shows about ritual abuse and how they obtain, use, enslave, and abuse women and children. Well there is this huge funky denial about ritual abuse in our country. All the acccusations of lying therapists and evil attorneys against innocent parents have brainwashed people into believing it doesn’t happen, it never did happen. It happened. It still happens.

I am a ritual abuse survivor.

Covert Sexual Abuse

Covert incest occurs when the parent makes the child a surrogate partner. The boundary between caring and incestuous love is crossed when the relationship with the child exists to meet the needs of the parent rather than those of the child.

Silently Seduced by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D

Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

Emotional Incest Part 1

Emotional Incest Part 2

Covert Sexual Abuse

Emotional Incest: What is It?

Emotional Incest & Abuse

Emotional Incest

Emotional Incest Issues

Emotional Incest = Sexuality Abuse

Emotional Incest: The Seductive Fantasy of Being Special

Emotional Incest: Will He or She Change

Mother-Daughter Covert Incest

Why Do I Feel Like He is Making Me Into His Wife?

A Bouquet of Purple Carnations for My Birthday

Some Day I Will Have to Share Her With Someone Else

Daddy’s Little Princess Part 1

Daddy’s Princess Part 2

Covert Emotional Incest: Little Prince – Part 1
Mothers, Sons and Lovers

Peter Pan Grows Up – Mother-Son Fixation 2

Little Prince Part 3: Sons & Lovers Mother-Son Fixation & Emotional Incest 3

We’re Not Close Like We Used to Be

A Journey Toward Wholeness

Anything But a “Real Man”

Coping for the Holidays

It’s that time of year where we can find ourselves in the need of being reminded of some good skills to use.

Self-Soothe and Comfort article links

Grounding and Coping Skills article links

Holiday Coping articles

My main Resources Page

You can also reach these resource pages by clicking onto the resources link at the top of my blog page.

I wish you all only the best and highest in your lives and your healings. I am thankful for all of you and all that you have brought into my life.

Good and healing thoughts to you all.

Blogger Resource Pages/Links

Resource Pages:

Kate1975’s Survivor Resource Pages  (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

Band Back Together’s Resources Pages

One Brave Duck’s Blog:

Healing and Hope

Paula Brave’s Blog:

Sibling Sexual Abuse Resources

Sibling Sexual Abuse Clinical Articles

Sundrip’s Blog:

Resource Page

Third of a Lifetime’s:

2010 Best PTSD Resources for Trauma Survivors ~ Pt 1

2010 Best PTSD Resources for Trauma Survivors ~ Pt 2

2010 Best PTSD Resources for Trauma Survivors ~ Pt 3

Blogs Lists:

Third of a Lifetime’s Dissociation Blog Showcase