United States Suicide Hotlines
Paupua New Guinea Suicide Hotlines
Russian Federation Suicide Hotlines
Trinidad and Tobago Suicide Hotlines
United Kingdom Suicide Hotlines
List originally posted here.
White/Race Privilege:
White Privilege:Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack
“Check my privilege?” On privilege and what we can do about it
A Primer on Privilege: What it is and What it isn’t
Privilege 101: Checking Your Privilege
Male Privilege:
Permission to Geek Out– Granted
Class Privilege:
USA Privilege:
Heterosexual/Sexuality Privilege:
Heterosexual Privilege Checklist
Monogamous Privilege Checklist
Gender Identity Privilege:
Body Size or Body Normative Privilege:
Frequently Heard [Comment Insults] Asshatery
What Being a Fat Woman is Really Like
My Embarrassing Picture Went Viral
You Cannot Help Those You Loathe
How Not to Talk to Fat People on the Internet
Thin Privilege is Real: How to Think About it Intersectionally
Able-Bodied Privilege:
Able-Bodied Privilege: Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack
Neurotypical Privilege Checklist
Religious Privilege:
Age Privilege:
Local Crisis Centers Around the World
Lifeline, Suicide Prevention Lifeline, in the USA:
1-800-273-8255
RAINN, Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network, in the USA:
National Sexual Assault Hotline
1-800-656-Hope(4673)
National Sexual Assault Online Hotline
In October of last year I posted a new resource page. It is for partners and supporters of survivors. I was very excited to start assembling this resource page, because there is not a lot of resources out there and some of it gives what I consider the wrong advice.
Recently I’ve come across a couple of other organizations focusing on Dissociative Identity Disorder, with articles for partners and supporters and added them. The issue of lack of appropriate advice and information for multiples, their partners, friends, family, other survivors, and other supporters has always been acute. I’m so happy that I was able to add to the resource page and hopefully it will help some of us feel more understood, acknowledged, accepted, and supported.
Here is the link to my page:
For Partners and Supporters of Survivors
And here is my resource page:
Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)
Good and healing thoughts to us all.
Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)
What You Should Know About Rape and Sexual Assault
Healing from Child Sexual Abuse Resources
Male Rape/Sexual Assault Resources
What Survivors Need from Loved Ones
Tips for Friends and Family of Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors
What the Partners of Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse Want to Know
How to Help Your Partner Cope with Male Sexual Abuse
For Loved Ones of Sexual Assault/Abuse Survivors
Child Abuse Triggers and Dissociation Pt. 3 (Helping Someone after they Dissociate)
For Parents and Partners of Rape
Watching Them Survive: A Website for the Friends and Family of Violent Sexual Crime
Specifically For Partners:
Primer for Partners of Sexual Abuse Survivors
For Parents and Partners of Rape
A Man’s Guide for Helping a Woman Who Has Been Raped
The Dos and Don’t for Partners of Survivors of Rape and Childhood Sexual Abuse
When Your (Lesbian) Partner is a Survivor of Sexual Abuse or Incest
Partner Sexual Abuse Questions and Answers
How to Help Your Partner Recover from Eating Problems
How to Help Those Who Self-Harm
What About Me? The Partner of Sexual Abuse Survivor
Tips for Helping a Partner Heal Sexually
Self-Care for Supporters of Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors
On the Topic of Dissociative Identity Disorder:
Dissociative Identity Disorder Resources
Specifically for Partners of Survivors with DID:
Blog: Loving Someone with DID
Organization: Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors
My Experience as a Partner of a Dissociative Disorder
For Better or Worse: Life as the Partner of a Dissociative Survivor
The Road Less Travelled Part One: How to Support Your DID Partner (Part 1)
The Road Less Travelled Part One: How to Support Your DID Partner (Part 2)
Don’t do it!” – A Partner’s Perspective on Self-harm and Suicidality
When the One You Love is MPD/DID
Partners of Dissociative Survivors
The Significant Other’s Guide to Dissociative Identity Disorder
Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)
CAST: Coaltion to Abolish Slavery & Trafficking
Understanding Slavery & Trafficking
ECPAT USA: End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography, and Trafficking of Children for Sexual Exploitation
Amnesty International: Trafficking FAQ
Initiative Against Sexual Trafficking
Ritual Abuse/Trafficking Articles
Child Victims of Human Trafficking
The Commercial Exploitation of Children in the U.S., Canada, and Mexico
Their Protection is in Our Hands: The State of Global Child Trafficking for Sexual Purposes
Trafficking in Persons 2010 Report
Trafficking in Persons: U.S. Policy and Issues for Congress
Forced Labor & Human Trafficking: Estimating the Profits
Coalition Against Trafficking in Women
I know that nowadays most people grasp the concept that there is human trafficking of human beings, across borders and boundaries, exploiting workers and enslaving them. Trafficking can also happen in one country, as young teenage girls are being promised a good job in the city only to find armed guards and a debt they will never be able to pay by sexual slavery. I do not use the term forced prostitution, as that does not accurately describe what happens to these children and adults.
This happens worldwide and is understood to involve children and adults. This is the modern-day face of slavery. I created a page of resource links on the topic of human trafficking and it is posted here on my blog:
This is the reality we face now. I hear about it on the national news. I heard it a lot when I was living nearby Mexico last year. Though there is usually a lot of denial that it happens here in America, it does. Most news stories are about trafficking being transporting citizens of other countries into another country illegally.
There isn’t a lot of stories about the women who become captured and sold into sexual slavery, except in other countries. There are some, just not that many. There aren’t a lot of stories about teenagers who become enslaved to someone who is selling them as prostitutes due to physical and sexual assaults and threats. I saw one story. There are some other stories, just usually not about it happening in the United States. It does.
Although there are stories in the news of children being sexually abused by family members, I never hear about all the children that are sold sexually to other adults by their parents or siblings. This is not rare. This is also a type of human trafficking, but no one is talking about it in the media. Being a child member of a family where abuse is happening is the reality of a captive childhood. They are selling children’s bodies for profit. And no one is talking about it in the national media. I was abused like this.
There used to be frequent stories about child pornography and organized sexual abuse and the online efforts to catch them. It is very rare to hear about it now, a big case here or there that caught many with computers full of child pornography. It used to be a topic in the national news magazines.
Now the level of awareness has devolved into sexual offenders making a date with a teenager and instead being caught on the show To Catch a Predator. Yes they are predators and yes they are sexual offenders. They just aren’t child sexual abuse predators. Those seem to not be on news programs anymore. Why? They are still out there. Why is abuse made so invisible in our culture/country?
There aren’t any stories on the news or news shows about ritual abuse and how they obtain, use, enslave, and abuse women and children. Well there is this huge funky denial about ritual abuse in our country. All the acccusations of lying therapists and evil attorneys against innocent parents have brainwashed people into believing it doesn’t happen, it never did happen. It happened. It still happens.
I am a ritual abuse survivor.
Covert incest occurs when the parent makes the child a surrogate partner. The boundary between caring and incestuous love is crossed when the relationship with the child exists to meet the needs of the parent rather than those of the child.
Silently Seduced by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D
Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)
Emotional Incest = Sexuality Abuse
Emotional Incest: The Seductive Fantasy of Being Special
Emotional Incest: Will He or She Change
Why Do I Feel Like He is Making Me Into His Wife?
A Bouquet of Purple Carnations for My Birthday
Some Day I Will Have to Share Her With Someone Else
Daddy’s Little Princess Part 1
Covert Emotional Incest: Little Prince – Part 1
Mothers, Sons and Lovers
Peter Pan Grows Up – Mother-Son Fixation 2
Little Prince Part 3: Sons & Lovers Mother-Son Fixation & Emotional Incest 3
Woke up in the middle of the night, all dizzy and nauseous, unable to sit up well. Knew it right away, I have an inner ear infection. There were signs of it coming along, but those signs are similar to other issues so I don’t really know until I start getting dizzy and nauseous.
I had been having headaches, but sometime the other medication I was taking over the weekend gives me headaches. Not sleeping well or enough the last five days or so. I had been forgetting obvious things, mind a little more distracted than usual. I knew that I was not well. Yesterday I woke up with my left ear hurting, but that can happen if my pillow slips out from me or isn’t plumped up enough before going to sleep. I was feeling more pain, but injured my knee a few days ago. Sometimes figuring stuff out is a hard thing, except when the dizziness comes I know what has been going on all along.
Taking it easy. Took some anti-motion sickness medication in the middle of the night and thank goodness for that. I slept as much as possible. I used some lavender essential oil on a cotton ball with some hydrogen peroxide and rubbed it around my ear and throat. I gargled with hydrogen peroxide, that always helps. I used the peppermint essential oil to do my five breaths exercise. It is good when my stomach is upset, which is something that can happen when I get an ear infection.
I’m going to use some diluted tea tree essential oil on my throat and by both ears. Both oils are great for dealing with infections.
I will try to do some more self-care and comforting things today. I really need to look over some of the grounding and comforting articles I have listed on my Resources page and start making a list of my own. I’ll try to do some of that today, cause I need some good ideas that I don’t have to think of on my own. I’ll post about how that all goes.
It’s that time of year where we can find ourselves in the need of being reminded of some good skills to use.
Self-Soothe and Comfort article links
Grounding and Coping Skills article links
Holiday Coping articles
My main Resources Page
You can also reach these resource pages by clicking onto the resources link at the top of my blog page.
I wish you all only the best and highest in your lives and your healings. I am thankful for all of you and all that you have brought into my life.
Good and healing thoughts to you all.
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