Covert Sexual Abuse

Covert incest occurs when the parent makes the child a surrogate partner. The boundary between caring and incestuous love is crossed when the relationship with the child exists to meet the needs of the parent rather than those of the child.

Silently Seduced by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D

Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

Emotional Incest Part 1

Emotional Incest Part 2

Covert Sexual Abuse

Emotional Incest: What is It?

Emotional Incest & Abuse

Emotional Incest

Emotional Incest Issues

Emotional Incest = Sexuality Abuse

Emotional Incest: The Seductive Fantasy of Being Special

Emotional Incest: Will He or She Change

Mother-Daughter Covert Incest

Why Do I Feel Like He is Making Me Into His Wife?

A Bouquet of Purple Carnations for My Birthday

Some Day I Will Have to Share Her With Someone Else

Daddy’s Little Princess Part 1

Daddy’s Princess Part 2

Covert Emotional Incest: Little Prince – Part 1
Mothers, Sons and Lovers

Peter Pan Grows Up – Mother-Son Fixation 2

Little Prince Part 3: Sons & Lovers Mother-Son Fixation & Emotional Incest 3

We’re Not Close Like We Used to Be

A Journey Toward Wholeness

Anything But a “Real Man”


Woke up in the middle of the night, all dizzy and nauseous, unable to sit up well. Knew it right away, I have an inner ear infection. There were signs of it coming along, but those signs are similar to other issues so I don’t really know until I start getting dizzy and nauseous.

I had been having headaches, but sometime the other medication I was taking over the weekend gives me headaches. Not sleeping well or enough the last five days or so. I had been forgetting obvious things, mind a little more distracted than usual. I knew that I was not well. Yesterday I woke up with my left ear hurting, but that can happen if my pillow slips out from me or isn’t plumped up enough before going to sleep. I was feeling more pain, but injured my knee a few days ago. Sometimes figuring stuff out is a hard thing, except when the dizziness comes I know what has been going on all along.

Taking it easy. Took some anti-motion sickness medication in the middle of the night and thank goodness for that. I slept as much as possible. I used some lavender essential oil on a cotton ball with some hydrogen peroxide and rubbed it around my ear and throat.  I gargled with hydrogen peroxide, that always helps. I used the peppermint essential oil to do my five breaths exercise. It is good when my stomach is upset, which is something that can happen when I get an ear infection.

I’m going to use some diluted tea tree essential oil on my throat and by both ears. Both oils are great for dealing with infections.

I will try to do some more self-care and comforting things today. I really need to look over some of the grounding and comforting articles I have listed on my Resources page and start making a list of my own. I’ll try to do some of that today, cause I need some good ideas that I don’t have to think of on my own. I’ll post about how that all goes.

Coping for the Holidays

It’s that time of year where we can find ourselves in the need of being reminded of some good skills to use.

Self-Soothe and Comfort article links

Grounding and Coping Skills article links

Holiday Coping articles

My main Resources Page

You can also reach these resource pages by clicking onto the resources link at the top of my blog page.

I wish you all only the best and highest in your lives and your healings. I am thankful for all of you and all that you have brought into my life.

Good and healing thoughts to you all.


I am posting this notice due to some search terms that repeatedly lead people to my blog. Apparently some people are confused about whether or not this is an abuser blog or not. This is not an abuser blog. I am not an abuser. This is a blog about a survivor of child sexual abuse.

This blog does not include specific details about child sexual abuse, fiction or non-fiction, nor do I post any links on my resource pages that do.

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Kate1975’s Survivor Resource Pages  (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

Band Back Together’s Resources Pages

One Brave Duck’s Blog:

Healing and Hope

Paula Brave’s Blog:

Sibling Sexual Abuse Resources

Sibling Sexual Abuse Clinical Articles

Sundrip’s Blog:

Resource Page

Third of a Lifetime’s:

2010 Best PTSD Resources for Trauma Survivors ~ Pt 1

2010 Best PTSD Resources for Trauma Survivors ~ Pt 2

2010 Best PTSD Resources for Trauma Survivors ~ Pt 3

Blogs Lists:

Third of a Lifetime’s Dissociation Blog Showcase

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