My 2012 New Year’s Resolutions

One thing I decided to do for this year’s resolutions was to write down what I want more of.

More chocolate.

This one tends to be on every year’s resolutions. I’m not sure if I am achieving this resolution each year, but I try and I enjoy it while trying.

More moving.

This is one that I have been working on for a few months. I started walking some every day, if I can, and moving as much as I can each day as well.

More laughter.

I have been working on this as well. I have started to watch more comedies that make me laugh. Netflix online is great for this; some that make me laugh each and every time: Monty Python, Keeping Up Appearances, Blackadder, Red Dwarf, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, 30 Rock. Also there are repeats of some shows; Seinfeld and the Big Bang Theory. I also enjoy cartoons that make me laugh, especially the old Warner Bros. cartoons, Spongebob and The Emperor’s New School.

More play.

There are lots of things that I love to do that are play. The Littles love to play. The Teens love to play too, it is just more low-key things for them. I need to work more on identifying the things we want to do that we consider play and to find ways to do them.

I also am working on being more lighthearted with others. I like being like that and it is enjoyable to interact with others in a way that is silly. The Littles enjoy silliness and so do I.

More healthy eating.

This is something I work on every year. I am definitely moving in the right direction. I am buying some gluten free foods from the local food co-op and keeping track of the little teaching sessions they offer. I am thinking of doing that in the near future as well as buying a subscription for organic food from a local farm through the co-op this summer.

More boundaries…

to protect myself from abusive behavior. I have to keep reminding myself that, you can leave, when I am not safe or not feeling safe or when someone is being abusive or manipulative towards me. I can leave. I can have that as a boundary. I don’t have to be with them. I can now take better care of myself.

More acquaintances, friends, interactions, and support.

Keeping my physical and financial challenges and limitations in mind, I am reaching out more to others. I want to do more. I want to find new people to do enjoyable things with. I can’t most of the time. But I can still do things online. Finding new friends is the most wonderful miracle for me.

I have joined three local meetup groups that I would like to get to a couple of meetings this year. I also found a science fiction/fantasy group that I would like to join. I am really excited about these groups.

More love.

I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out what I love, what brings me bliss, what I like, what I don’t like, what I do want, what I don’t want. I now want to spend more of my time with love.

More gentleness towards my body.

This is something that recently has really gotten a grip on me. Not just that I need to do it, but that a huge difference has happened in the last few months and I am free of some of the aftermath issues around this topic. I am not always gentle, but I am learning how to be gentle when doing basic cares and to learn how to nurture my body with love in my heart and a gentle, respectful touch while taking care of my body.

More comfort.

My body is in pain all the time. I have had chronic pain for over twenty-five years. I know that no reason is necessary for embracing comfort in my life. But somehow I still feel as though I need to have a reason to do it. This year I will try to be using comfort and become more comfortable with it. I will probably be writing about this on the blog.

More in nature.

It truly is like fuel for me. I realize that and want to assist myself in fueling myself and in nurturing that desire. I like being happy. Being in nature makes me happy.

See more beauty.

I do think that nature can be very beautiful. I enjoy that very much. Beauty can also be art and creativity. Beauty can also be many other things. Beauty can also be a part of daily life. I want to do that.

More music.

I’ve been able to get some used music cds in the last few months and listen to many of them. I am discovering new artists and getting some cds of artists that I love, but couldn’t afford, and finding some new great cds for listening to while relaxing, breathing, and doing Reiki. The music is making me feel very happy.

More creativity.

I have my craft things out, since getting them back from storage, and have started going through them. I have a bookshelf to put out some things and organize them. I figure that since they will be out, I will find it easier to start back into doing more creative things. I need to take out my digital camera and start using it. Once I get going on some things I want to start sharing more on the blog about it all.

More skills.

I want to learn more skills. In creativity, in art, in life, in techonology, in advocacy, in starting a non-profit for survivors.

More healing.

I want to work on healing more for myself and others. I want to live my life with healing in my mind and daily life, not just some of the time. I think that I have done a pretty good job of doing healing, but I want to do more. I want it to be my life as an opportunity for healing, whenever something comes up that is from the abuse or the aftermath of abuse, I want to be able to see it for what it is and to counter-act it in my daily life. I want to work towards that.

My 2011 Resolutions

My 2010 Resoultions

My New Year’s Resolutions 2010

In the past I tended to make the same New Year’s Resolutions and not get too far in them, except to make myself feel guilt-stricken and worse about myself. Too bad that resolution never occurred to me from the outset, cause then at least I could have said at least I accomplished one of them.

Then I decided almost ten years ago to make resolutions that I would enjoy and that would be either healing and/or validating to myself and my basic interests and selfhood. Here are some for this year:

Eat more chocolate.

Dance in the moonlight.

Look at the stars.

Be creative.

Laugh and play.




Question authority.

Be brazen.

Help others.

Help others to heal.


What are some of yours?