It happened again and I was furious. I am furious each and every time. A woman brushed against my bum again. I swear to God, I want to slap someone so much when they do that inappropriate behavior.
I was at an activity with some family members. We were waiting in a lobby in a building. I was talking to a couple of little kids, so I was bending down just a little. An old woman came up behind me and as she was walking brushed her whole forearm, in her coat sleeve, against my bum. I literally jumped.
Yes it was crowded but there was plenty of room for someone else to walk, plenty of room, and if she wanted to demand that someone move out of her way she could have asked or asked someone else who wasn’t disabled.
You just don’t walk up to someone’s ass and brush against them for no reason, just for the hell of it! But I have experienced this a lot, usually at least once a month, and last month it happened two times. It happened at the thrift store last month and it has happened in thrift stores in the past. It also happened last month at Target.
I know that I have written about this here on the blog before. I don’t know why women do this to me and I realized recently that a man doesn’t act like this to me. A guy has never done this to me. Well I think that if a man ever did that to me he would end up in the hospital and that is why they don’t. I think that women should assume that if they do it to me they will end up in the hospital as well.
So why women with no boundaries think it is okay to rub up against me, brush their coat or purse or huge shopping cart up against my bum, or touch my bum goes way beyond my ability to figure out. I think they are perverts. I think they are sexual offenders. I have never done this to another woman, or to a man.
So I jumped and looked around, filled with rage. It was an older woman and she demanded I get out of her way, because apparently she shouldn’t have to ask people to move or be polite or anything like that. She actually tried to grab my forearm. I jumped and yelled at her, no don’t touch me. And then I had to yell the same thing at the other old sagging wrinkled old woman she was with who came up behind her and tried to grab my arm as well. I said, I don’t want you touching me! I don’t want strangers touching me.
I was the only person standing there with a walking cane, but apparently I was the only person they felt like making demands on. Yeah I’m standing there with a cane and these two think that I’m just the person to jump for them.
My adult nephew was there and he looked appalled at me. His eyes were bugging out. Too bad. I wasn’t going to explain to him, in front of everyone, that she just walked up onto my bum and did grab ass. Just because they were too old women doesn’t mean that they weren’t perverts.
I think that I will talk to my nephew’s wife and explain what had happened and why yelled at them, since it seemed like he thought I was supposed to be quiet, compliant, and a good little victim. I know he didn’t understand what was going on, but still I should be able to object to others behavior and that should be okay and they should understand that I don’t just freak out for no reason. Well I guess I feel as though I have to explain that to them.
I was very proud of myself that I was loud and direct to them, don’t touch me, I don’t want you to touch me and that I said it before they could touch me. I had been practicing this out loud to myself, because I really want to stop this kind of behavior happening to me. I don’t know what else I have to do and what I haven’t done in order to stop this behavior, but what I really do know is this; no one has a right to my body but me.
There was no excuse for getting that close to me and brushing up against my bum, that is a private part of the body that people get to share with who they want to and not share with most of the people on earth. My body is mine. I don’t have to share it. I have right to body boundaries and a right to say no.