I wanted to write about this question for some time, but then I keep talking myself out of doing it. So here goes.
Some time ago a blog friend asked me if I was writing about another survivor blogger on my blog. based on a specific post I had done about a problem that I had had with a friend. The answer was no. I understand the question and I totally understand wanting to know.
The blog post was about a face-to-face friend, who I had not been friends with for some time. And the blogger she thought I was writing about was not a friend, so would not qualify to be called a friend of mine on a blog post of mine. I believe that most survivor bloggers try to keep that type of stuff off their blogs and I respect that and so do I.
So I don’t write negatively about bloggers on my blog. Certainly not friends or friends of friends in the blog world. I try not to write about someone in a way on the blog that puts others in a situation of having to deal with them and I try very hard to keep this tendency and disagreements out of my comments sections as well.
Of course survivor issues can often repeat over and over in a survivor’s life, I know it does in mine. So often I am processing a number of incidents from my life as I work on feeling, processing, and healing from a primary issue of survivorhood. So I totally get why the question was asked.
Except for one blogger, who I did write about negatively, who did not believe in DID and was copying survivor blog posts and then arguing about the truth and validity of survivors, their experiences, their reality, etc. Those of us who are DID and/or diagnosed with DID deserve better treatment than that. I wrote about that, but I was never involved with this blogger on her blog or on mine. I believe that everyone has a right to believe whatever they want and even to write about it on their own blog. But I draw the line on going to survivor of abuse’s blog who have a diagnosis of DID, copying and writing negatively and cruelly about them. This is not okay.
I believe strongly in community, connection, and healing in community.
So I don’t normally write about other survivor bloggers, except when I say how much you all mean to me, which is a lot.
Good and healing thoughts to you.