World Kindness Day

Today is World Kindness Day. I haven’t decided what I am going to do today, for kindness, but I think that I will try to do something for me and something for someone else. I’ll try to write about that soon.

Here is a huge list of kindness ideas from the Random Acts of Kindness Organization:

Kindness Ideas

Here are some ideas that I liked:

donate used items (I do this often), say something nice about someone (I like to do that a lot in the blogosphere), share inspirational quotes (I do that a lot, here and more and more in my life), donate a book (I love to donate books. I have always believed that books love to travel. :)), give directions to someone who is lost ( I did this recently and it felt great.), and make a list of acts of kindness for you to do in the future. There are lots of other ideas at the link above.

If you are thinking of doing something kind for yourself today, consider looking at the 40 suggestions for self-kindness:

40 Ways to Practice Self-Kindness Check out the article for explanations for the items listed below.

  1. Stretching
  2. Drink plenty of water
  3. Regularly breathe deeply
  4. 5 A Day
  5. Don’t forget to play
  6. Watch your self critic
  7. Volunteer
  8. Say no
  9. Act on what you need and not what you want
  10. Forgive
  11. Please Stop hating your body
  12. Exercise
  13. Give hugs
  14. Disconnect
  15. Listen to Your Body
  16. Accept compliments
  17. Sleep
  18. Stop complaining
  19. Get emotionally honest
  20. Have that difficult conversation
  21. If you need help, ask for it
  22. Mindful Eating 
  23. It’s okay to cry
  24. Flowers
  25. Walk tall
  26. Practice gratitude
  27. Me time 
  28. Laugh
  29. Eat your favorite food
  30. Be who you really are
  31. Gut instinct 
  32. Stop trying so hard to control things 
  33. Express yourself 
  34. Clothes
  35. Consider minimizing the time you spend with difficult people
  36. Apologies
  37. Perspective
  38. Being liked
  39. Massage
  40. Speak the truth

40 Ways to Practice Self-Kindess

40 Ways to Practice Self-Kindness

I recently read this article. Some of the items I have been working on for some time. Some of the items I have been working on for a shorter period of time. Some of the items I don’t like at all and rejected them as suggestions.

Usually when I read lists of suggestions for doing things better in my life, I like the suggestions and often like the idea of doing several of them. But usually I do nothing. I guess I get kind of overwhelmed and the article or suggestions from books or others often get lost in the effort of managing my daily life and healing work.

So I decided this time to try something different; to pick out five items from the list and to try to work on them for several years.

Here are the five things that I have been working on:

Don’t forget to play.

(Always a difficult thing for me to integrate into my life. But I have been working hard at playing. One thing I did do this past week was to buy the dvd It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown and have watched it several times. I love that show and try to watch it each year, and now I can watch it whenever I want instead of trying to catch it’s once a year airing. I’ll be writing about this suggestion more in the next few weeks and months.)

Listen to your body.

(Especially I have been using this suggestion the last few weeks for when I am tired and need to lie down, and need to rest or sleep. Look, I really don’t want to do this, but when I need to lie down and need to rest or need to take a nap or go to bed in the middle of the day or can’t sleep at all, I really need to be good and kind to myself and not try to tough it out like I have done a lot in my life. I need to be gentler with myself. I need to listen to my body.)

Be who you really are.

(Article suggests not being concerned about what others think of you, which had always been a huge issue for me. I had been working on this for a while. I decided it might be good to approach that issue from the other side, really being who I am more of the time. I had been doing this through the blog world and practicing being more engaged in the world.

Unfortunately I get shy in public often and this hugely gets in the way of being comfortable with myself. I think my shyness has been coming out more often because I really haven’t been around a lot in public over the last nine months and now being around others is making me shy. This is a lot worse because many of the times when I am interacting with others is in a group where I don’t know others, making my shyness and social anxiety worse.

Still, with these restrictions I am still working on this issue, and I am hoping that as time goes on I will get to know more people and be getting more support, which will help for my shyness to go down to a more manageable level. I have joined a support group and gone to a Reiki share, and gone out to eat several times with several friends, which I will be writing about more on the blog. )

Express yourself.

(This item is about expressing yourself creatively. I had been kind of stuck, in a couple of important ways and am trying to overcome those.

Last week I made a goal of writing a poem and I wrote a poem. 🙂 I’m not saying that it was the best I have ever written, but it was important to do it. I also read a lot of poems, that seems to get me going creatively with words. I hadn’t written a poem since February 2013 when I started getting ready to move and then had so many bad things happen with my new roommate and the apartment. I realized that I was stuck, by the bad times, then living in a shelter for a month, then my new place, and not being online here for months due to money concerns, well it really kept me stuck and thinking about it was not getting me anywhere.

I finally got some more beading supplies so that I can make earrings, bracelets, and necklaces again. It has been about five years since I really did any real beading work.

I finally got some poster board and bought some old magazines so that I can make some collages, that too has been a long time since I created one.

I’ve also been working on bringing more of my creativity into my daily life and seeing it in more of the things that I do. One of those things is to see and acknowledge my blog as being creative and as a big part of my creative expression to the world.)

Clothes. 

The suggestion is to wear the clothes that you feel the most ‘you’ in. I had been thinking about this for a while, wanting to wear clothes that are not only very comfortable, which is always what I need to do for my health issues, is to be comfortable and for my clothes to be loose, and start adding more creative touches that are whimsical, silly, and fun. I had been buying some bead bracelets and assorted pins at the used store and I wear them on my backpack. I am always looking at clothes when I go to the used stores and sometimes at the regular stores, and rarely finding something great to go with my ideas of comfort, fun, and casual attire.