When Volunteering

When volunterring, I have learned through previous experience, it is important to have very strong boundaries, rules, and limitations. It is important to know what you are willing to do and not willing to do, and beliefs and actions you are willing to see in a non-profit. I have gone through very difficult and stressful extended situations with several non-profits myself and I wanted to write about them here, to process some more about them.

Yes, you are giving your labor away for free, but that does not mean that you should not value it and that others should devalue it. Your hourly labor has a value, a price tag, and a significance.

It is unfortunate, because I should think that non-profits and other places should value what they are getting for free and should value those who choose to volunteer with them. And that means for me that I must decide in advance what kind of treatment I am willing to tolerate, what kind of treatment towards others I am willing to tolerate, especially towards those they purport to serve, and the kind of entrenched beliefs and actions that I see and notice.

Your labor has value. Your time has value. Your service has value. If someone mistreats you, you are not required to address it, you can just leave. It is not your job to change an entrenched bias in a company, especially if it is a non-profit. You are there to give. If your gift is not valued, you have every right to leave. None of it is your fault. If people act in unethical and unprofessional ways it is not your fault.

For a short period of time I volunteered at a local non-profit that worked politically for the Minnesota homeless. I was first introduced to the group through a Bruce Springsteen concert. It has been Bruce’s practice in his concerts to partner with a local non-profit, by asking them to have a table at his concert where they can hand out information and solicit donations and volunteers. During the concerts he talks about the non-profit and encourages his fans to check out their booth and to consider volunteering. I remembered the name and some time later called them and offered to volunteer. I did over 50 hours in volunteer time there.

The last time that I had committed to volunteer went very bad. I was encouraged to be there early one morning, even though I wanted to be there that afternoon, and had said so several times by phone. After changing my life around I got there only to be treated like I was underfoot all morning, until I offered to leave, which they jumped at. They had an appointment that afternoon that they were preparing for, and it was obvious that they were not ready and that they considered me in the way.

It was a small non-profit and there was only three employees, the director, the assistant director, and the office manager. I had been told that they had trouble keeping staff, yeah they had trouble keeping one staff person, which should have been a big warning sign to me.

The office manager was relatively new, and as the only other woman in the office with me there were a few times that we engaged in some light chatting, to get to know one another better. We both found that we had a mutual love of movies, older movies, and collecting movies. It made us both smile. We were just getting ready to compare favorites when the director yelled out at us: Freaks! We both stopped talking. Then I offered to leave early.

I called the next day to talk to the director. I reminded him of his employee’s and mine conversation and his shouting the word freaks at us. I told him that was inappropriate to treat someone like that in the workplace, no matter who they are or what they are saying. I told him that I wanted an apology from him. He refused to apologize and told me a lengthy explanation why not. I disagreed with him and told him why, twice, he still refused. He seemed to like to think of it as light-hearted ribbing, but how do you do that to a volunteer and a new employee of yours that you barely know? I don’t know, but I know that I was unwilling to be someone he felt comfortable emotionally and verbally abusing.

It was not light hearted banter, as he seemed to want to portray it and it was demeaning and unfeeling to treat a volunteer and a new employee in that manner. Name calling is one of the things that I do not tolerate in my life, it was chock full in my childhood and I refuse to let someone subject me to that in my present.

I decided to ask my bro what he thought of the incident. He told me, there are like a million non-profits out there, if one refuses to treat you well and with respect, go find another. He was right. So I did.

7 thoughts on “When Volunteering

  1. Kudos to you for standing your ground and leaving. You don’t have to subject yourself to this kind of a treatment.

    Non profits are oftentimes misunderstood. It’s not that they don’t make any money. The story is, they have to invest the profits back into the business and not keep it. In return, they enjoy rather nice tax benefits, like not having to pay property taxes on the building they own. This however doesn’t mean that the owners or CEO’s of a non-profit go hungry. They simply draw a salary so it comes from another pocket.

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    • Hi Anna,

      Thank you.

      I don’t think that this non-profit was doing very well financially, but I think that they got what they deserved, not a lot of financial support. They did do fundraising and I think that was how they got most of their money, rather than from grants or big unsolicited donations.

      Good and healing thoughts to you.



  2. Such valid and important boundaries to consider before volunteering. I am planning to volunteer in the near future, and never thought of this information. Thanks for sharing! At least now I will be able to set boundaries and not be walked all over and my kind nature be taken advantage of

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    • Hi,

      You’re welcome. I’m glad that this might help you as you journey out into volunteering. I was quite naïve and being so soft-natured was easily and often in a situation where I wasn’t sure what to do and when I was I often had difficulty establishing a boundary and embracing it. I volunteered at several other places and my experiences at them contribute to my not volunteering right now. I will write more about them in the near future on this blog. I hope that you can have a great experience volunteering and if not, please remember my bro’s counsel, there are like a million non-profits out there, find one that respects and values you.

      Good and healing thoughts to you.


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    • I agree. I think it is important to say that a lot, cause there are people out there who are very unprofessional and easily and happily abusive to others in a work environment. Good and healing thoughts to you.


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    • Yes, it was at a certain point in my life and in my healing where I easily made a choice that established a good boundary for myself. I was proud of that.

      Good and healing thoughts to you.


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