Yesterday I talked to the apartment manager about the stairway guy, who got too familiar and wanted to know if I was married, had a boyfriend, and wanted to know if we wanted to get to know each other, in rapid succession. I still think that the first two questions being answered quickly and irrevocably in the negative should have dissuaded him from going further.
I described the guy, named the date and the name he gave, as well as his stated apartment number only to be told the apartment manager did not know him and that he was lying to me about living here. Still he could be living with someone and they are lying to the apartment manager, which is still going on here. These are one person studios in this building and they only allow one person to live in an apartment. Or he could have been visiting someone, someone had to let him into the building and he did come out of an apartment, so he did know someone here, at least.
I spoke to the manager about how uncomfortable it was to be treated like this, being much older than this guy who could very well still be a teenager, and to be treated like this in a bar might be normal in a bar, but not in my apartment building stairway. He understood what I was talking about. I told him about living here for almost three years and always being treated so nicely and politely by guys in the building and especially by the guy residents here. So this was quite a shock.
Later I called the office and needed to leave a message with his assistant manager, who is a woman. She really understood how uncomfortable this guy had made me, and she really listened to me, and it was good to feel understood. I had told them both that if I see him again and he bothers me I will tell him that I do not want to talk to him and walk away.