More Advent Presents

We are absolutely incapable of making this toy work. I think it isn’t any fun because of that and is in fact very frustrating to me. However the kids often ask for one. We got this one at the dollar store, so it is not very well made, but they don’t care, they enjoy it and like trying to make the ball bounce off the paddle, even if they aren’t very good at it.

What I have discovered through this process is that if someone wants a toy it is okay to let them have the toy and it is wrong to try to talk them out of it. I have adults do that to me as a child and I always hated and abhorred being treated like that. I don’t always understand why they want something, but I need to set that aside and try to not be rational about it and to try to not speak rationally about it with them. They want it. The store isn’t very well made and it was easy to see that I should try to find a better copy of this toy in another store, they will have a much better chance of learning how to play with it if they have a better built toy.

Erasers, again, but not to be used as erasers. They like them just for having them, for looking at them, and enjoying them, decorations.

I’m not so sure about being able to get the ladybug to roll around a metal can, but it is pretty fun to roll him backwards and watch him go forwards. πŸ™‚

We love puzzles. Some of The Littles love the Disney princesses. Cinderella is our favorite. Though Merida in Brave and Rapunzel in Tangled are strong second and third favorites.

 

15 thoughts on “More Advent Presents

    • Yeah. Well when you let someone pick out what they want at the store, they get what they want, but also there are no surprises for them when it comes to me buying them things. πŸ™‚

      Kate

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      • Aw, I understand. My mom let me pick my Christmas gifts so I never knew what a surprise was unless I was willing to get a gift my narcissistic mother chose. It was be surprised and disappointed or no surprise but pleased with what you got in my case!

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      • Hi,

        I’m sorry that you had that kind of mother, I can relate, mine was a narcissist as well. I’m glad that you got what you wanted. I always ask relatives or anyone who gives me gifts things for them; usually movies and toys, so that they get some surprises. πŸ™‚

        Good and healing thoughts to you.

        Kate

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      • That’s a good idea. So your relatives know you have DID then? As a young child when my parents still tried to keep up with Santa Claus I never got what I wanted. It was actually better when I stopped believing in Santa and could pick what I wanted. LOL.

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      • Nice that there was an upside to knowing about Santa. There is something lovely about gift surprises though. I love them.

        My sister told me on Christmas Eve. That was a horrible thing to do, I think, but she was told to do it by my parents. I hated that, that she was the one to do it, she was never a big part of my life and never cared about me, so it was horrible to be told the night before by her. I think that there was a better time of the year to do it. Sometimes people are such asses.

        Yes all my family know, my siblings and for sure some of their kids know who are adults. And stupidly I told one cousin and she told others and so they all know too, on that side of my family, stupidly because they are all dysfunctional and judging. But we don’t associate with any cousins. We only see a few siblings. That is because the ones we don’t see are mouthy and emotionally abusive, and one is a sex offender. The ones we see are nice about us being DID.

        I started telling siblings the year I knew that I was, when I was about 27 years old. I made a lot of bad decisions at that time, but I think that it was for the best that we told and now we can just live our lives and those who want to and can be kind to us are a part of our life. And seriously we love our presents. We usually give them a list of movies and/or toys that we want and so we are sure to get some of what we really really want. πŸ™‚

        Good and healing thoughts to you.

        Kate

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      • I figured it out on my own around 6 because the treats left for Santa weren’t eaten and I never got anything from my list I’d asked for. My mother wasn’t really good at keeping up the facade of there being a Santa. So even as a young child I had doubts but tried to keep my beliefs for as long as possible. My sister tried to get me to believe longer by making a Santa membership card or something for me but I knew she had made it! I was a smart kid despite what my family thought.
        I’m sorry your sister was the one to spoil it for you and on Christmas Eve! That’s rough 😦
        Glad you only associate with family who respect you now. I avoid unnecessary interaction with disagreeable family for similar reasons.

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      • Good for you for avoiding disagreeable family. That was so sweet of your sister to do. It sounds like you were a smart kid.

        My family invested a lot in Christmas and Santa, so it was easy for me to believe. My father loved that time of year and he was very good at making a nice and wonderful Christmas for all us kids.

        Kate

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      • Thanks-I forgot to mention when we went shopping for treats for Santa we’d get stuff my parents liked! LOL
        I’m glad your family made more of an effort to maintain the magic, so to speak.

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      • AWWW, snacks they liked! How terrible. I hope you are having a happy holiday season this year.

        I can credit my Dad with so much that was good around this time of year, he loved Christmastime and celebrating. It was a huge thing with lots of presents, good food, snacks, and love. He made certain moments of my life tolerable.

        Good and healing thoughts to you.

        Kate

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      • Hi,

        Yes. He enjoyed doing things with his kids and was very kind at times and very good. He brought a lot of joy into his children’s life. It was so much a shame that he was very dysfunctional and an alcoholic as well.

        Kate

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