When I first started healing from child sexual abuse, as an adult, I heard tons of commands to use affirmations. They didn’t work for me. They never worked for me. What they seemed to do instead when I used them was to break open a pocket of self-hatred, that would ooze inside me like pus. It was awful. It was one of those things that I always knew did not work for me and that would never work for me. I knew.
Others often made me feel ashamed that it did not work, that it made things worse, and that I did not plan on continuing to use them. That was wrong of them.
If there is anyone that affirmations has helped, I am happy for you. I celebrate with you the healing that affirmations have brought into your life.
They always felt like lying to me and I have always tried to have a scrupulously honest and integrity filled life, with myself, with my inners, and with my life. I always believed that the truth, no matter how hard a truth, no matter how bad things are, if acknowledged brought a light inside and a healing along with it. I’ve known so many other people who did not see the light or did not want to stand in the light with me or did not care for or about me. That is okay, I release all of them from my life. I am okay with standing in the light. I have found others who can stand the beauty of the light and who are facing their own truths as well.
Not every tool works for every person or for every kind of project, or even ever. Or even for most. We need more healing tools rather than trying to make everyone fit into the few techniques out there.
Good and healing light of truth to us all.