C is for Healing

C is for Healing.

 C is for Creativity. A big part of being able to survive is our ability to think beyond the moment we are going through, to imagine a different place and time and world for ourselves and to dream, to use our heart and soul in creative action. As much as creativity is a part of a victim’s life, it is even more so a part of an adult survivor’s life, endurance, and healing.

C is for Change. Change is said to be the one constant in life, in the universe, and indeed in a survivor’s healing life and healing path. If change wasn’t a constant in our lives, we wouldn’t be moving forward, we wouldn’t be able to alter our lives, improve our lives, healing inside and change our life for the better. Change is earth-shattering. But change also brings healing.

Change is one of the biggest fears I ever had in my life. I think it is for plenty of survivors. It takes a long time and a lot of healing for a survivor to get to a point of being unmoved by fear when the concept or topic of change comes up inside a person or outside by others or circumstances.

C is for Clarity. Clarity is something survivors have had obscured from their lives. Clarity is something you grasp rarely, only to see it slip from your fingers. Clarity is what you are reaching for when you are learning to stand up for yourself, to learn boundaries, reading books about survivors and healing, to find your voice, to establish a life of your own, away from abuse.

Clarity is clear seeing; in  your life, in your soul, in your mind. It’s the opposite of what abusers do, intend, want, or work towards. Clarity is the beginning of change, the beginning of empowerment, the piece of the puzzle. Clarity is seeing yourself accurately, with the eyes of love, perhaps for the first time in your life.

Clarity is healing and brings healing. Clarity is sweet.