My 2012 New Year’s Resolutions

One thing I decided to do for this year’s resolutions was to write down what I want more of.

More chocolate.

This one tends to be on every year’s resolutions. I’m not sure if I am achieving this resolution each year, but I try and I enjoy it while trying.

More moving.

This is one that I have been working on for a few months. I started walking some every day, if I can, and moving as much as I can each day as well.

More laughter.

I have been working on this as well. I have started to watch more comedies that make me laugh. Netflix online is great for this; some that make me laugh each and every time: Monty Python, Keeping Up Appearances, Blackadder, Red Dwarf, A Bit of Fry and Laurie, 30 Rock. Also there are repeats of some shows; Seinfeld and the Big Bang Theory. I also enjoy cartoons that make me laugh, especially the old Warner Bros. cartoons, Spongebob and The Emperor’s New School.

More play.

There are lots of things that I love to do that are play. The Littles love to play. The Teens love to play too, it is just more low-key things for them. I need to work more on identifying the things we want to do that we consider play and to find ways to do them.

I also am working on being more lighthearted with others. I like being like that and it is enjoyable to interact with others in a way that is silly. The Littles enjoy silliness and so do I.

More healthy eating.

This is something I work on every year. I am definitely moving in the right direction. I am buying some gluten free foods from the local food co-op and keeping track of the little teaching sessions they offer. I am thinking of doing that in the near future as well as buying a subscription for organic food from a local farm through the co-op this summer.

More boundaries…

to protect myself from abusive behavior. I have to keep reminding myself that, you can leave, when I am not safe or not feeling safe or when someone is being abusive or manipulative towards me. I can leave. I can have that as a boundary. I don’t have to be with them. I can now take better care of myself.

More acquaintances, friends, interactions, and support.

Keeping my physical and financial challenges and limitations in mind, I am reaching out more to others. I want to do more. I want to find new people to do enjoyable things with. I can’t most of the time. But I can still do things online. Finding new friends is the most wonderful miracle for me.

I have joined three local meetup groups that I would like to get to a couple of meetings this year. I also found a science fiction/fantasy group that I would like to join. I am really excited about these groups.

More love.

I have spent a lot of time trying to figure out what I love, what brings me bliss, what I like, what I don’t like, what I do want, what I don’t want. I now want to spend more of my time with love.

More gentleness towards my body.

This is something that recently has really gotten a grip on me. Not just that I need to do it, but that a huge difference has happened in the last few months and I am free of some of the aftermath issues around this topic. I am not always gentle, but I am learning how to be gentle when doing basic cares and to learn how to nurture my body with love in my heart and a gentle, respectful touch while taking care of my body.

More comfort.

My body is in pain all the time. I have had chronic pain for over twenty-five years. I know that no reason is necessary for embracing comfort in my life. But somehow I still feel as though I need to have a reason to do it. This year I will try to be using comfort and become more comfortable with it. I will probably be writing about this on the blog.

More in nature.

It truly is like fuel for me. I realize that and want to assist myself in fueling myself and in nurturing that desire. I like being happy. Being in nature makes me happy.

See more beauty.

I do think that nature can be very beautiful. I enjoy that very much. Beauty can also be art and creativity. Beauty can also be many other things. Beauty can also be a part of daily life. I want to do that.

More music.

I’ve been able to get some used music cds in the last few months and listen to many of them. I am discovering new artists and getting some cds of artists that I love, but couldn’t afford, and finding some new great cds for listening to while relaxing, breathing, and doing Reiki. The music is making me feel very happy.

More creativity.

I have my craft things out, since getting them back from storage, and have started going through them. I have a bookshelf to put out some things and organize them. I figure that since they will be out, I will find it easier to start back into doing more creative things. I need to take out my digital camera and start using it. Once I get going on some things I want to start sharing more on the blog about it all.

More skills.

I want to learn more skills. In creativity, in art, in life, in techonology, in advocacy, in starting a non-profit for survivors.

More healing.

I want to work on healing more for myself and others. I want to live my life with healing in my mind and daily life, not just some of the time. I think that I have done a pretty good job of doing healing, but I want to do more. I want it to be my life as an opportunity for healing, whenever something comes up that is from the abuse or the aftermath of abuse, I want to be able to see it for what it is and to counter-act it in my daily life. I want to work towards that.

My 2011 Resolutions

My 2010 Resoultions

6 thoughts on “My 2012 New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Kate,

    It sounds like there are some indulgent and fun (always needed) resolutions and also some insightful ones. I’ve never seen “chocolate” on a resolution list, but I can see the need for it!

    I can relate to many things on the list. I’m not usually one to write out my list, because I always rely on the future being uncertain. It’s a fear issue for me after my childhood I’m sure. I never want to say “I will resolve to do this or enjoy more of this” because of that fear. However, I think it would be such a healing step to try and do so. You’re doing a healing thing, and I wish you well on this year’s resolutions!



    • Hi Brittany,

      Normally I don’t do indulgent, not for myself, though I am pretty good at suggesting it and helping another survivor to do so. So indulgence sounds like something I need to start doing. 🙂 And fun is something I am not as familiar with as I would like.

      Chocolate has been on my new year’s list for the last ten years or so. 🙂

      I can relate to having trouble writing things down and wishing for positive things and ideas in my life. It is something that I have a lot of trouble with. Doing a new year’s resolution every year has been a way for me to work on this, as well as having my blog and writing a lot. Thanks so much for your comments. They mean so much to me.

      Good and healing thoughts to you.



  2. I too have been in chronic pain for years and have learned to accept that I can’t do everything I want to do, but that is OK. Some weekends (like this one) I just have to mostly rest up for work on Monday. I also need to set more boundaries (wrt to dating, if I start up again). Nice list … I wish you a good 2012 and a lot of delicious chocolate. 🙂


    • Hi Paula,

      Thank you for reading and commenting. I’m sorry that you can relate to the chronic pain issue. Yeah, limitations and boundaries, those are so important to understand, learn to listen to, and heed. As a survivor, it is extra hard for me to do so. Living with chronic pain is a recipe for disconnection, denial, and dissociation. Learning to re-connect to a body that is going through so much can be a real challenge and real difficult.

      Very courageous of you to consider dating. It is tough out there.

      Thanks for the well wishes, especially the delicious chocolate. 🙂

      Good and healing thoughts to you.



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