Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse Resources

Notice: This blog is a healing blog by a survivor of child sexual abuse. This blog does not include specific details about child sexual abuse, fiction or non-fiction, nor do I post any links on my resource pages that do. Attempting to find them on my blog or on any of my survivor resource pages is an exercise in futility.

Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

(Please note, I highly recommend that survivors do not join or participate in fee based online message board groups that are owned and run by therapists. The therapist charges a monthly fee. I have experiences and known others who have had experiences that were negative, painful, abusive and very unhealing. However the survivors I knew at those message boards were wonderful.

I would advise anyone to avoid fee based therapist owned message boards like the plague and to not pay for any message board interactions for memberships there. I realize that everyone must make their own choices, but have come to believe that I should make a statement of my beliefs on my blog.)

Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse: A Painful Topic

Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse

Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse 2

Long-term Effects of Sexual Abuse by a Female

Examining Mother Daughter Sexual Abuse

What is Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse?

Healing Challenges Specific to Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse

Child Abuse By Mother: “She Did the Best She Could”

Can the Gaping Hole from Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse be Healed?

Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse Issues in Adulthood

Yearning for a Mother After Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse

Grieving Losses after Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse

Mother Daughter Sexual Abuse Dynamics Book List

MDSA Novels and Autobiography Book List

Blogs that cover the topic of Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse:

My Blog: Kate Is Rising

Rose Roars

Shapeshifters

Butterfly Closures

Saving Olivia

Discovering Serenity

Reflections on Life Thus Far

Finding Health After Illness

Innocence Stolen

Seething Consequences

Blueorchid8

Female Sexual Offenders- Survivors Safehouse

The People Behind My Eyes

MDSA Resources:

The Sexual Abuse by Women of Children and Teenagers

An Unthinkable Topic- The Mother Daughter Sexual Child Abuse Scenario

Mother Love/Female Abusers Part 2

Mother Love Part II– The Psychological Impact on Daughters Who Have Been Sexually Abused by Their Mothers

General Healing Resources:

Comprehensive Healing Page

Healing from Child Sexual Abuse

Grounding/Coping Skills

Self-Soothe/Comfort Skills

Emotions and Self-Esteem

Boundaries Skills

Body Image

Self-Injury/Self-Harm

Eating Disorders

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder

Narcissistic Mother Resources:

Characteristics of Narcissistic Mothers

How to Recognize a Narcissist

Narcissistic Traits

Forms of Abuse

Negative Self-Talk

Engulfing Mother

Infantilisation

Parentification

Ignoring Mother

Invalidating

Strings Attached

Gaslighting

Narcissistic Rage

Golden Child/Scapegoat

Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers

Dealing with a Narcissist

Narcissistic Mother-English Dictionary

Does Someone You Love Have NPD or BPD?

Borderline Personality Disorder Mother Resources:

What is Borderline Personality Disorder?

Hallmarks of BPD

Enmeshment: 1+1=1

Are You an Emotional Caretaker?

How a Mother with BPD Affects Her Children

Overcoming Childhood Emotional Neglect

Mothering Ourselves

Create Yourself a New Mom

Portable Comfort: How to Take Comfort With You

Mothering Ourselves– Nurturing Yourself, Your Dreams, & the World

More MDSA Resources:

Amy Fix: Musician, Songwriter, Singer, MDSA Survivor

Christine Sandor’s Website, author of  Warming the Stone Children, MDSA Survivor

Precious Swan (Compare and contrast article on Precious and Black Swan)

[Mother Daughter] Sexual Abuse in Black Swan

Black Swan: Movie About Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse

Female Child Sexual Abusers: A Critical Review of the Literature

Female Sexual Abuse of Children: The Ultimate Taboo

Female Sexual Abusers Not as Rare as Widely Believe

Female Perpetration of Child Sexual Abuse: An Overview of the Problem

Female Sexual Offenders and Their Victims: Reference Materials and Scholarly Papers

Oprah Episode: Women Who Molest

Female Sexual Abusers- Who Are They?

It’s Not Just Men Who Abuse

Sexual Abuse by Women of Children and Teenagers

Females and Sexual Abuse: The Ultimate Taboo

Mum was a Paedophile

 

24 thoughts on “Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse Resources

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  2. Wow, thank you for this! I tried finding info on MDSA and it was very difficult. I only found a handful of books and most were reference type books for professionals. I am so pleased to see all of these resources on the topic. I am a survivor of MDSA and feel grateful you’ve made this list. Thanks again.

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    • Hi,

      You’re welcome. When I first started working on healing from mother-daughter sexual abuse I found one book. So I am very glad that there are more resources out there now and that more people understand that it (female sexual offenders) too is abuse and that it too happens and that it does not happen rarely.

      The books that I would recommend for you to read the most are:

      When You’re Ready: A Woman’s Healing from Childhood Physical and Sexual Abuse by Her Mother by Kathy Evert

      Broken Child by Marcia Cameron

      The Deepest Wound: How a Journey from El Salvador Led to Healing from Mother-Daughter Sexual Abuse by Linda Crockett

      These three books are the best, I think, and focus a large amount of the book on their healing process. Still I have managed to read almost all the other books out there. Some were good, some where helpful, most where healing, but these three are the best.

      Good and healing thoughts to you.

      Kate

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      • Hi,

        I’d love to hear from you in the future. It is great for me to find other MDSA survivors. There is no one else in the world that I feel the strongest commonality and sense of love to as MDSA survivors. That is why I love to have other MDSA bloggers listed on my MDSA resource page. So just to let you know I listed both of your blogs on my MDSA resource page.

        As well it would be great if you give me your reactions to the books here or if you post about them on your blogs, just a caution, all of them can be very triggering because the authors write about flashbacks and I found it very hard to read about. Take them as slow or as quick to read as suits you best.

        Good and healing thoughts to you.

        Kate

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      • Thank you. I haven’t read any of the books yet b/c I am rather poor being unemployed currently. The books were not available in my local libraries either-except for one. But I don’t have the money right now to order them but may order one or two when I’m able to. Thanks for sharing my blogs.

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      • Hi,

        I’m sorry that you are unemployed right now and unable to get the books. Which one were you able to read from the library? I am asking because I have copies of a couple of them and would be willing to send them to you. Let me know.

        Good and healing thoughts to you.

        Kate

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      • Hi, thanks for the offer but I want to remain anonymous at this point-as much as that’s possible in the 21st century digital age! Thanks so much for your kind offer though. I’ve found one for $22 at Indigo so am going to get that one (all the rest were much more expensive). Thank you for your support 🙂 The university libraries had a few of the books on your Amazon list but only students can borrow them. I could, however, read them if I stayed inside the library.

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      • Hi,

        I understand that. I try to find my books on amazon used from another person. But that isn’t very nowadays. I saw broken child on sale for a dollar yesterday with four dollars for shipping. When you’re ready is usually available for about five dollars plus shipping. I’m a big amazon used book shopper. That’s why I’ve bought a few extra copies. $22 sounds like a lot of money, is that The Deepest Wound? That one always costs too much.

        I went through that as well with a university but I could borrow them through my regular library card through inter-library loan, not sure if you have something like that, but that was how I got a hold of some of the books initially. I could do the inter-library loan online by myself and when I had to pick up the books and have them checked out I told the librarian that I was needing the books for my college course child abuse and neglect. I thought that it was none of their business if I had gone through MDSA or not.

        My college library allowed anyone from the surrounding area to come in with their library card and they could get registered to take out books, is that a possibility at that school?

        Good and healing thoughts to you.

        Kate

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      • Thanks. I hadn’t considered buying the books used. Are they normally in good condition? The book I was looking at was A Mother’s Touch. I live in Canada and books are usually a bit pricey here. But I could try the used avenue via Amazon.ca(Canadian Amazon).
        The universities don’t have inter library loans unless you’re a student. I’m not so am not eligible. I know this because I was a student at one of the universities for many years. Later I went to ask if I could borrow a book if not registered for courses anymore and I couldn’t. But it’s okay. If I really wanted to I could go in and sit down and read the book(s) while I’m there. Not that I’d be able to finish them but it’s better than nothing.
        Thanks again 🙂

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      • Hi,

        Sorry I don’t know about Canada, but yes amazon used prices made some of the books affordable and most of the books I got were in good condition. One time I got a bad book but I emailed the seller and they refunded the money.

        Do you have a regular library card? I would suggest you go to that library and request information on how to look for inter-library loans by yourself. Some older systems only allow the librarian to do the searching, but now with more technology you can do an inter-library loan request online by yourself once you know how. There will be a link, usually at their online homepage. At least it is possible here in US. Though library systems vary around the country. The university libraries might not allow you to do it there, but you can do a request through your regular library. I’ve done this quite often online, looking for books I can’t afford, and I see many books from universities across my state listed there, so I know they are available. Not sure if that will be the same for you. Not many mdsa books might be available, but since some are at the university that you know of, it is possible you might be available to do a inter-library loan through the regular library with your library card.

        Good and healing thoughts to you.

        Kate

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      • Hi, thanks for the tip. I’d forgotten that as an option! It totally left my brain that I could do the inter library thing with ALL libraries. So thanks so much! I’m very grateful for you bringing it up again. Thanks.

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      • Hi,

        I’m glad that you were able to get some from the library systems. That is great. No, there aren’t that many of them out there at libraries. It reminds me of how hard it was to get a book on child sexual abuse from a library before “The Courage to Heal” came out, twenty-five years ago.

        Good and healing thoughts to you.

        Kate

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      • Yes. When I first started working on healing there were only three books on child sexual abuse in my library system. I remember reading them. Only one was good, it was an anthology of poems and short stories written by survivors of child sexual abuse. But there wasn’t one book that could be called self-help on healing. A few years after that “The Courage to Heal” came out. Soon after many books were being published.

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      • Yes me too. Things have changed so much and yet there has been an incredible backlash as well. It is so much easier to heal and to find a therapist who believes that abuse happens and to find books that are about healing and the struggles of other survivors who have been so brave to share their stories.

        Good and healing thoughts to you.

        Kate

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      • Yes I agree. I have been so happy being able to have mdsa blog friends and the other mdsa online friends that I have made as well. I’m very lucky indeed.

        Kate

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