Local Crisis Centers and Hotlines

Local Crisis Centers Around the World

International Resources

Lifeline, Suicide Prevention Lifeline, in the USA:

1-800-273-8255

RAINN, Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network, in the USA:

National Sexual Assault Hotline

1-800-656-Hope(4673)

National Sexual Assault Online Hotline

 

A Resource Page for Partners and Supporters of Survivors

In October of last year I posted a new resource page. It is for partners and supporters of survivors. I was very excited to start assembling this resource page, because there is not a lot of resources out there and some of it gives what I consider the wrong advice.

Recently I’ve come across a couple of other organizations focusing on Dissociative Identity Disorder, with articles for partners and supporters and added them. The issue of lack of appropriate advice and information for multiples, their partners, friends, family, other survivors, and other supporters has always been acute. I’m so happy that I was able to add to the resource page and hopefully it will help some of us feel more understood, acknowledged, accepted, and supported.  

Here is the link to my page:

For Partners and Supporters of Survivors

And here is my resource page:

Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

Good and healing thoughts to us all.

For Partners and Supporters of Survivors

Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

What You Should Know About Rape and Sexual Assault

The Impact of Sexual Abuse

Healing from Child Sexual Abuse Resources

Rape/Sexual Assault Resources

Male Rape/Sexual Assault Resources

How to Help a Friend

What Survivors Need from Loved Ones

Tips for Friends and Family of Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors

What the Partners of Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse Want to Know

For Loved Ones of Sexual Assault/Abuse Survivors

Child Abuse Triggers and Dissociation Pt. 3 (Helping Someone after they Dissociate)

Role of Carers and Supporters

How to Help Rape Survivors

For Parents and Partners of Rape

Watching Them Survive: A Website for the Friends and Family of Violent Sexual Crime

Specifically For Partners:

Primer for Partners of Sexual Abuse Survivors

Partners with PTSD

Partners of Survivors

Partners of Rape Survivors

For Parents and Partners of Rape

A Man’s Guide for Helping a Woman Who Has Been Raped

The Dos and Don’t for Partners of Survivors of Rape and Childhood Sexual Abuse

When Your (Lesbian) Partner is a Survivor of Sexual Abuse or Incest

Partner Sexual Abuse Questions and Answers

How to Help Your Partner Recover from Eating Problems

How to Help Those Who Self-Harm

Support for Partners.com

What About Me? The Partner of Sexual Abuse Survivor

What Partners Need

A Partner’s Dilemma

Tips for Helping a Partner Heal Sexually

Self-Care for Supporters of Rape and Sexual Abuse Survivors

On the Topic of Dissociative Identity Disorder:

Dissociative Identity Disorder Resources

Specifically for Partners of Survivors with DID:

Blog: Loving Someone with DID

Organization: Positive Outcomes for Dissociative Survivors

My Experience as a Partner of a Dissociative Disorder

For Better or Worse: Life as the Partner of a Dissociative Survivor

The Road Less Travelled Part One: How to Support Your DID Partner (Part 1)

The Road Less Travelled Part One: How to Support Your DID Partner (Part 2)

Don’t do it!” – A Partner’s Perspective on Self-harm and Suicidality

When the One You Love is MPD/DID

Partners of Dissociative Survivors

The Significant Other’s Guide to Dissociative Identity Disorder

Help! My Friend Has DID. How Can I Help?

Human Trafficking

 

Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

CAST: Coaltion to Abolish Slavery & Trafficking

Understanding Slavery & Trafficking

Key Statistics

ECPAT USA: End Child Prostitution, Child Pornography, and Trafficking of Children for Sexual Exploitation

Statistics

Amnesty International: Trafficking FAQ

Initiative Against Sexual Trafficking

Resources Page

Human Trafficking Fact Sheet

Labor Trafficking Fact Sheet

Ritual Abuse/Trafficking Articles

Ritual Abuse Links

Child Victims of Human Trafficking

The Commercial Exploitation of Children in the U.S., Canada, and Mexico

Their Protection is in Our Hands: The State of Global Child Trafficking for Sexual Purposes

Trafficking in Persons 2010 Report

Trafficking in Persons: U.S. Policy and Issues for Congress

Sex Trafficking Fact Sheet

International Trafficking in Women to the United States: A Contemporary Manifestation of Slavery & Organized Crime

Forced Labor & Human Trafficking: Estimating the Profits

Free the Slaves

Polaris Project

Coalition Against Trafficking in Women

Anti-Slavery

Body and Sold

Blog: Human Trafficking & Sexual Exploitation

News Articles

The Reality of Human Trafficking

I know that nowadays most people grasp the concept that there is human trafficking of human beings, across borders and boundaries, exploiting workers and enslaving them. Trafficking can also happen in one country, as young teenage girls are being promised a good job in the city only to find armed guards and a debt they will never be able to pay by sexual slavery. I do not use the term forced prostitution, as that does not accurately describe what happens to these children and adults.

This happens worldwide and is understood to involve children and adults. This is the modern-day face of slavery. I created a page of resource links on the topic of human trafficking and it is posted here on my blog:

Human Trafficking Resources

This is the reality we face now.  I hear about it on the national news. I heard it a lot when I was living nearby Mexico last year. Though there is usually a lot of denial that it happens here in America, it does. Most news stories are about trafficking being transporting citizens of other countries into another country illegally.

There isn’t a lot of stories about the women who become captured and sold into sexual slavery, except in other countries. There are some, just not that many. There aren’t a lot of stories about teenagers who become enslaved to someone who is selling them as prostitutes due to physical and sexual assaults and threats. I saw one story. There are some other stories, just usually not about it happening in the United States. It does.

Although there are stories in the news of children being sexually abused by family members, I never hear about all the children that are  sold sexually to other adults by their parents or siblings. This is not rare.  This is also a type of human trafficking, but no one is talking about it in the media. Being a child member of a family where abuse is happening is the reality of a captive childhood. They are selling children’s bodies for profit. And no one is talking about it in the national media. I was abused like this.

There used to be frequent stories about child pornography and organized sexual abuse and the online efforts to catch them. It is very rare to hear about it now, a big case here or there that caught many with computers full of child pornography. It used to be a topic in the national news magazines.

Now the level of awareness has devolved into sexual offenders making a date with a teenager and instead being caught on the show To Catch a Predator. Yes they are predators and yes they are sexual offenders. They just aren’t child sexual abuse predators. Those seem to not be on news programs anymore. Why? They are still out there. Why is abuse made so invisible in our culture/country?

There aren’t any stories on the news or news shows about ritual abuse and how they obtain, use, enslave, and abuse women and children. Well there is this huge funky denial about ritual abuse in our country. All the acccusations of lying therapists and evil attorneys against innocent parents have brainwashed people into believing it doesn’t happen, it never did happen. It happened. It still happens.

I am a ritual abuse survivor.

Covert Sexual Abuse

Covert incest occurs when the parent makes the child a surrogate partner. The boundary between caring and incestuous love is crossed when the relationship with the child exists to meet the needs of the parent rather than those of the child.

Silently Seduced by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D

Survivor Resource Pages (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

CovertIncest.org

Emotional Incest Part 1

Emotional Incest Part 2

Covert Sexual Abuse

Emotional Incest: What is It?

Emotional Incest & Abuse

Emotional Incest

Emotional Incest Issues

Emotional Incest = Sexuality Abuse

Emotional Incest: The Seductive Fantasy of Being Special

Emotional Incest: Will He or She Change

Mother-Daughter Covert Incest

Why Do I Feel Like He is Making Me Into His Wife?

A Bouquet of Purple Carnations for My Birthday

Some Day I Will Have to Share Her With Someone Else

Daddy’s Little Princess Part 1

Daddy’s Princess Part 2

Covert Emotional Incest: Little Prince – Part 1
Mothers, Sons and Lovers

Peter Pan Grows Up – Mother-Son Fixation 2

Little Prince Part 3: Sons & Lovers Mother-Son Fixation & Emotional Incest 3

We’re Not Close Like We Used to Be

A Journey Toward Wholeness

Anything But a “Real Man”

Today

Woke up in the middle of the night, all dizzy and nauseous, unable to sit up well. Knew it right away, I have an inner ear infection. There were signs of it coming along, but those signs are similar to other issues so I don’t really know until I start getting dizzy and nauseous.

I had been having headaches, but sometime the other medication I was taking over the weekend gives me headaches. Not sleeping well or enough the last five days or so. I had been forgetting obvious things, mind a little more distracted than usual. I knew that I was not well. Yesterday I woke up with my left ear hurting, but that can happen if my pillow slips out from me or isn’t plumped up enough before going to sleep. I was feeling more pain, but injured my knee a few days ago. Sometimes figuring stuff out is a hard thing, except when the dizziness comes I know what has been going on all along.

Taking it easy. Took some anti-motion sickness medication in the middle of the night and thank goodness for that. I slept as much as possible. I used some lavender essential oil on a cotton ball with some hydrogen peroxide and rubbed it around my ear and throat.  I gargled with hydrogen peroxide, that always helps. I used the peppermint essential oil to do my five breaths exercise. It is good when my stomach is upset, which is something that can happen when I get an ear infection.

I’m going to use some diluted tea tree essential oil on my throat and by both ears. Both oils are great for dealing with infections.

I will try to do some more self-care and comforting things today. I really need to look over some of the grounding and comforting articles I have listed on my Resources page and start making a list of my own. I’ll try to do some of that today, cause I need some good ideas that I don’t have to think of on my own. I’ll post about how that all goes.

Coping for the Holidays

It’s that time of year where we can find ourselves in the need of being reminded of some good skills to use.

Self-Soothe and Comfort article links

Grounding and Coping Skills article links

Holiday Coping articles

My main Resources Page

You can also reach these resource pages by clicking onto the resources link at the top of my blog page.

I wish you all only the best and highest in your lives and your healings. I am thankful for all of you and all that you have brought into my life.

Good and healing thoughts to you all.

Notice

I am posting this notice due to some search terms that repeatedly lead people to my blog. Apparently some people are confused about whether or not this is an abuser blog or not. This is not an abuser blog. I am not an abuser. This is a blog about a survivor of child sexual abuse.

This blog does not include specific details about child sexual abuse, fiction or non-fiction, nor do I post any links on my resource pages that do.

Blogger Resource Pages/Links

Resource Pages:

Kate1975′s Survivor Resource Pages  (Forty pages of resources, non-profit organizations, articles, and healing support for survivors of child sexual abuse, rape, sexual assault, domestic violence, and dealing with the aftermath of child sexual abuse.)

Band Back Together’s Resources Pages

One Brave Duck’s Blog:

Healing and Hope

Paula Brave’s Blog:

Sibling Sexual Abuse Resources

Sibling Sexual Abuse Clinical Articles

Sundrip’s Blog:

Resource Page

Third of a Lifetime’s:

2010 Best PTSD Resources for Trauma Survivors ~ Pt 1

2010 Best PTSD Resources for Trauma Survivors ~ Pt 2

2010 Best PTSD Resources for Trauma Survivors ~ Pt 3

Blogs Lists:

Third of a Lifetime’s Dissociation Blog Showcase