I was in a store recently and another guy came up to me and was looking at me in that way that creepy guys do and perhaps think is totally normal. Ick. It is not normal unless you think looking for sex in a public store is considered normal.
I was shopping in a store aisle with a cart, minding my own business when he came walking down the aisle towards me. He had that look on his face that showed that he must have seen me earlier and had followed me especially to talk to me. I don’t know why some guys do not know that this is not a compliment, it is creepy, it is weird, it is inappropriate.
He seemed a little too happy to see my chest. He walked up in front of me and said hello and asked me how I was doing. I told him I am doing well, how are you? He said that is good. But he stretched the word good out and made it sound like he was purring and doing a low growl all at the same time. Iiiccckkk!
I walked away, keeping my cart between us. He didn’t say anything else, thankfully, but it was awful. I hate when men act like they are in a strip club instead of out in public. I am not a stripper. I am not in a strip club, working. I am a person, shopping, in a store. And no I am not looking for sex from some unattractive man who doesn’t have a passing acquaintance with self-esteem, self-care, and body hygiene.
I asked one of my nephews recently if he could explain behavior like this to me. He said he thinks that a lot of men probably think they are being subtle about it. I said no they aren’t, staring at a woman’s chest and going up to them with the intention of having sex is not subtle. Men who behave like that and subtlety do not go together. He agreed with me.
Now I have to figure out another way of dealing and discouraging this, because being nice, saying hello and how are you is not getting me what I want, for them to stop, for them to go away, for them to never come near me.
If only it were a guy talking to me that I would actually want to talk to and would be interested in. Well I sincerely hope that a guy like that would not be following me around in a store looking for easy sex, cause he’s wouldn’t get it either and if he did treat me that way, he wouldn’t be good enough for me. So I am hoping that there is a guy out there who might want to talk to me and get to know me, who is a nice and a great guy, who won’t treat me like this. I will keep hoping.