Reblogged: True Facts Our Abuse-Culture Doesn’t Want You to Know

You have inherent worth. You don’t have to do anything to prove it, just existing is enough.
You deserve love, support and respect all the time. Not just when you did something particularly agreeable, not just when the person is in a good mood or physically and mentally well or is treated by others respectfully; you deserve to be treated well ALL THE TIME.
You deserve to freely express your emotions and speak your own realities without fear of retaliation or shame.
You deserve to be able to tell someone why you don’t like how they’re treating you and a) not fear retaliation, intimidation, violence or emotional manipulation because of it, and b) actually have that person listen, take it to heart, and then change their behavior accordingly.
You deserve autonomy over yourself. You deserve to think, feel, say, wear, do, and associate with what or whomever you want without any outside pressure or control. [Clearly you aren’t free to infring on the rights of others or treat them oppressively, but pretty much everything else is up to you and your best judgement.]
You deserve to put yourself first. You deserve to have your life be about you. Everyone else can come after.
You deserve space when you need space.
You deserve to reach out to whoever you want for support.
Your emotions and experiences are valid.
You are important.
You deserve to defend yourself and fight tooth and nail to ensure that the above points are acknowledged and respected.
You deserve to to have your body, identity, beliefs, history, heritage, community and individual struggles respected by default. You deserve to never have to defend, apologize for, or hide who and what you are, what your body looks like or what you believe in. [The exception is if any of that is oppressive to others. Whiteness as a construct and white supremacy are not cultures, they are bigotry, hatred and oppression and those things do not deserve respect.]
You deserve complete control over who you associate with. You deserve to cut off communication with anyone if you feel that is the healthiest decision for you. You don’t need to justify that decision to anyone but yourself.
You deserve complete control over what information you choose to disclose to others about your body, your history, and your identities. You can be out if you want, you can be closeted if you want. You don’t owe anyone anything and you’re allowed to withhold any and all information about yourself that you’re uncomfortable sharing or that may put you at risk or in danger. [The exception to this is if withholding information that could have a direct impact on others, for example, not telling a potential sexual partner about your STD status. If it doesn’t affect them, it isn’t any of their business and you deserve to keep it to yourself if you want without fear of retaliation, guilt or shame.
You are perfect exactly the way you are.
You deserve to survive. No matter how many times you may have fucked up in the past, or how “worthless” this oppressive society may tell you you are, you have infinite value by default, you have the right to choose how to live your life, and you deserve to live and be happy.

Healing Poems 89

It’s all I have to bring today
It’s all I have to bring today–
This, and my heart beside–
This, and my heart, and all the fields–
And all the meadows wide–
Be sure you count–should I forget
Some one the sum could tell–
This, and my heart, and all the Bees
Which in the Clover dwell.
~ Emily Dickinson

Healing Quotes Littles 300

“Maybe you are searching among the branches for what only appears in the roots.”

~ Rumi

Healing Poems 88

When I Heard the Learned Astronomer

When I heard the learned astronomer,

When the proofs, the figures, were ranged in columns before me,

When I was shown the charts and diagrams, to add, divide, and measure them,

When, I sitting heard the astronomer where he lectured with much applause in the lecture-room,

How soon unaccountable I became tired and sick,

Till rising and gliding out I wandered off by myself,

In the mystical moist night-air, and from time to time,

Looked up in perfect silence at the stars.

~ Walt Whitman

Healing Quotes Littles 298-299

“A multitude of small delights constitute happiness.”
~ Charles Baudleaire
“Being happy isn’t having everything in your life be perfect. Maybe it’s about stringing together all the little things.”
~ Ann Brashares, The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants

Healing Poems 87


As parents
We see our children as miracles
It matters not
if you believe in God
You must simply

Believe in love

And if you are lucky
and see this miracle

a collection of stardust
and water
of cosmos
and the sea

of coursing blood
and dirt underfoot

and giggles
and cries
of heartbreak
and pride


And realize that it’s not
just your child

but you too
are made from stars
and the sea

and the blood coursing
and songs singing
and outside
of you

you too are the love

you, too are the miracle

~ Nora Laughlin

Healing Quotes Littles 297

“And a softness came from the starlight and filled me full to the bone.”
— W.B. Yeats


Healing Quotes Littles 296

“I found when I was a child that if I put the hurt into words, it would go.”
~ Jean Rhys, The Art of Fiction No. 64

Songs for Self(ves) 48

Your Love Keeps Lifting Me (Higher and Higher)

Jackie Wilson

Your love, liftin’ me higher
Than I’ve ever been lifted before
So keep it up, quench my desire
And I’ll be at your side forevermore

You know your love (your love keeps liftin’ me)
Keeps on liftin’ (your love keeps liftin’ me)
Higher (liftin’ me, liftin’ me), higher, and higher (higher)
I said your love (your love keeps liftin’ me)
Keeps on (liftin’ me, liftin’ me)
Liftin’ me (liftin’ me) higher and higher (higher)

Now once I was downhearted
Disappointment was my closest friend
But then you came and he soon departed
And you know he never showed his face again

That’s why your love (your love keeps liftin’ me)
Keeps on liftin’ (your love keeps liftin’ me)
Higher (liftin’ me, liftin’ me), higher, and higher (higher)
I said your love (your love keeps liftin’ me)
Keeps on (liftin’ me, liftin’ me)
Liftin’ me (liftin’ me) higher and higher (higher)

I’m so glad I finally found you
Yes, that one in a million girls
And I wish my lovin’ arms around ya
Honey, I can stand up and face the world

Let me tell ya your love (your love keeps liftin’ me)
Keeps on liftin’ (your love keeps liftin’ me)
Higher (liftin’ me, liftin’ me), higher, and higher (higher)
I said your love (your love keeps liftin’ me)
Keeps on (liftin’ me, liftin’ me)
Liftin’ me (liftin’ me) higher and higher (higher)
-Words and Music by Gary L. Jackson, Carl Smith, and Raynard Miner

Healing Quotes Littles 295

“Speak your heart. If they don’t understand, the message was never meant for them anyway.”

~ Yasmin Mogahed