B is for Healing

May 1, 2010 at 12:05 am 10 comments

B is for bone. We need to understand that we are strong like bones, yes breakable, but also incredibly strong, durable, and resilient. At times we can break, but mostly we endure.

I used to feel all uncomfortable and freaked out about bone, about having bones, about having a skeleton inside of me. But bones are intricate, minute little worlds and a skeleton is a recipe for function and possibilities.

After watching the show “Bones” for several seasons I have concluded that there is reason to love bones and to love being made of bones at my core. Living bones are not like skeletons. Living bones are alive, containing, enfolding, protecting, they make it possible for so much that we are capable of. Rarely do we question it or think about it. Bones are courageous. Survivors are like bones.

B is for ball. One of my brothers told me recently a ball is the most popular toy the world over. I told him, I know that. I read that in a book of children’s games and online as well. I showed him a small, tiny bouncing ball I had brought with me to California from Ohio and before that from Minnesota. I told him it is one of my favorite toys as well. I had been bouncing it out in the backyard earlier in the day. The ability to play is so tied up for me in playing with a ball. I have never lost the ability to play. We all need that. B is for ball.

B is for beauty. Survivors need beauty. We need to breathe in beauty, to soak it deep into our skin, to drink it down, to feast our eyes upon it. Survivors need beauty. We need every reason that we can find to have a reason for joy in this world. We need beauty like others need food or water. We need to have a reason to stay here, we need beauty, we need to find love, something to love, something for us to want, something for us to find joy and happiness with, something to make our hearts beat a little bit faster. Beauty is healing and we need all the healing we can find.

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  • 1. Kerro  |  May 1, 2010 at 4:40 pm

    I used to be freaked out about intestines. For years I couldn’t look at anything that even vaguely resembled intestines. Weird things, like carpet, used to make me feel sick. I couldn’t look at it.

    I’m not sure I can think of an analogy for intestines and survivors… unless you think of healing as a wiggly winding journey that is filled with half digested food!!! LOL
    ;)

    • 2. kate1975  |  May 2, 2010 at 12:39 pm

      Hi Kerro,

      I can understand the intestines issue. I think I have had that issue myself for some time in the past. I had big issues with lots of horror movies, for some reasons intestines are popular in them.

      Now that I know that I have gluten intolerance and have Celiac’s I am much more understanding and loving towards my intestines. So I think that I could find something healing and healthy to say about intestines. Just off the top of my head I would have to say intenstines are like healing in that they nourish the body and eliminate the toxins. Putting in good things into our life and eliminating the bad are huge parts of healing. So hurrah for our intestines. :)

      Good and healing thoughts to you.

      Kate

  • 3. Austin  |  May 2, 2010 at 9:44 am

    All I can do is smile about this entry :-) This really made me smile.

    • 4. kate1975  |  May 2, 2010 at 12:32 pm

      Hi Austin,

      I’m glad that it made you smile. Good medicine.

      Good and healing thoughts to you.

      Kate

  • 5. Elizabeth @ If She Cry Out  |  May 4, 2010 at 5:50 pm

    I love the way you acknowledge the need for play and beauty in healing.

    Best, beth

    • 6. kate1975  |  May 4, 2010 at 6:13 pm

      Hi Beth,

      Thanks. I think there is so much about our society that says that we need to be barren and quiet adults. Expressions of play and the seeking of beauty are some of the truest ways, I think, to embrace yourself, your humanity, your inherent value and right to exist and to heal.

      Good and healing thoughts to you.

      Kate

  • 7. Elizabeth @ If She Cry Out  |  May 5, 2010 at 10:15 am

    Would you at all be interested in letting me cross post this over at If She Cry Out? (http://ifshecryout.com) – with attribution and link back, of course.

    • 8. kate1975  |  May 7, 2010 at 10:35 am

      Yes that is fine. Good and healing thoughts to you.

      Kate

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  • 10. B is for Healing « If She Cry Out  |  May 8, 2010 at 1:04 pm

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