“Your struggles are valid even if others are struggling more.”
“Just a reminder that while positivity is a great tool it is not healthy to
repress negative thoughts/feelings
feel guilty for having negative thoughts/feelings
feel that you can’t express negative thoughts/feelings
Negative emotions are a part of life, and a truly balanced cognitive strategy will accept this (while working to change the balance of good to bad and teaching you coping strategies/self care/distraction etc).”
I made a raisin. All by my itty bitty self.
Let me tell you how to do it yourself.
Drop a grape behind the microwave.
Don’t realize that.
Leave it there for about a month.
Use microwave, heat vents throwing out heat.
Find raisin when moving microwave.
Realize that you have never brought raisins into apartment since moving in. But have had lots of grapes. And that you have cleaned behind microwave about a month ago. Hmm raisin making. Kind of embarrassing.
Be kind to yourself. Stop telling yourself that whatever you are struggling with “should” be easy. If something is hard for you, it is hard for you. There are probably Reasons, though those may just be how you are wired. Acknowledge these things. When you finish something hard, be proud! Celebrate a little.And really, just stop saying “should” to yourself about your thoughts and feelings in any context. You feel how you feel. The things in your head are the things in your head. You can’t change either directly through sheer force of will. You can only change what you do. Stop beating yourself up for who and what you are right now–it isn’t productive. Focus on moving forward.